Getting at the roots of anxiety

ARE YOU FEELING ANXIOUS?

Do you want to get into therapy / counseling for anxiety, stress or worry? But then do you think, “First world problems?” It’s ok, everyone deserves therapy.  Your need doesn’t have to be bigger than someone else’s need. What you feel is real and it’s ok for you to get therapy to deal with it.

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GET RELIEF FROM TENSION

Are you longing for relief from the tension you feel? My clients often say they feel so relieved after a session. They feel lighter, like they set down a burden they didn’t even realize they were carrying.

DEAL WITH HIGH EXPECTATIONS

Do you hold high expectations of yourself? Do you feel that you are failing sometimes, despite success in a high-performance, demanding role at work? Do you have perfectionist tendencies? Let’s look at what’s behind those expectations so you understand where they come from, which ones you want to meet, and then develop ways to hold high expectations comfortably. Let’s reassure the perfectionist side of you. Let’s get at the root of it all, so you don’t feel driven, and instead feel that you are the driver.

GO FROM OVERTHINKING TO THINKING THINGS THROUGH

Do you overthink or over prepare? Do you develop a plan to deal with every possible eventuality, just in case a, b, c… goes wrong? Let’s look at where those habits come from and decide what’s valuable about thinking things through and preparing back up plans. Then let’s figure out a way to use that wonderful brain of yours without feeling anxious but feeling confident instead.

GET RELIEF FROM PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS

Anxiety often manifests as muscle tension, a feeling in the pit of your stomach, a tight feeling in your chest, sore shoulders and headaches. There are ways to relieve and even prevent headaches, prevent or soothe those feelings of dread in your stomach and find ways to feel comfortable in your skin.  Let’s find the ways that work for you, so you feel better.

WHERE DOES ANXIETY COME FROM?

My hypothesis is that it depends on the person and the life that formed them. It seems to me that anxiety can be inherited, and it can be learned from our families. It can also come from stress, little t or Big T Trauma.

FAMILY HISTORY

Without meaning to, a caregiver who worries shows a child that the child should worry too. Anxiety can also come from learning to walk on eggshells because a caregiver or someone else scares you, criticizes you, or harms you.  If you’re in an anxious state, you naturally stay vigilant to keep yourself safe. Or if a caregiver pays attention to you inconsistently because of substance use, mental health or other life circumstance, that can lead to anxiety. Imagine not knowing whether your person is going to feed you, change your diaper, put you to sleep or pick you up and hold you when you cry. That would lead to anxiety.

“I DIDN’T EVEN REALIZE…”

When you don’t think about it, you don’t realize that being yelled at, bullied or disciplined can have a very negative impact on you. As a child, if you’re abused or sexually assaulted, it’s common for a child to think it’s your fault… Unless you told someone and they helped you deal with it, you might have wondered, “What’s wrong with me?” Or you might have asked yourself, “What did I do wrong?” But most often, kids just forget what happened, even though there’s often a negative thought about yourself deep in your memory.

AND THEN, WHEN YOU’RE AN ADULT…

When you reflect back on the way you grew up, or get into therapy, you might start thinking about your past in a new light and you might wonder, “Whose fault was that, really?” You realize that yes, that really did affect you. You realize that how you are today goes all the way back to your childhood.

YOU CAN WORK THROUGH IT

The good thing is you don’t have to live with that for the rest of your life. You can process it in therapy, rethink what happened, recognize that no, you did *not* cause that; you *are* a good person. You can replace your old thoughts about yourself with new, positive thoughts and move forward feeling free and strong.

LITTLE t AND BIG T TRAUMA

There are also infinite experiences we label as little ‘t’ and big ‘T’ traumas.

LITTLE t TRAUMA

Little ‘t’ traumas include feeling hurt by unkind comments, feeling lonely, left out. Even compliments can lead to little t trauma: you get a compliment, and you wonder what you have to do to get another one. You wonder why you get a compliment sometimes but not other times… The list of little ‘t’ traumas is endless.

BIG T TRAUMA

Big ‘T’ traumas are numerous as well: parental neglect; physical, emotional, psychological or sexual abuse, incest, rape; assault; accidents of all kinds… Then there are the traumas of culture: discrimination, judgment, rejection, immigration trauma… And poverty… Disasters also cause trauma: natural disasters, a factory or plant blowing up, economic disasters, border crossing trauma. Life circumstances can cause trauma as well: death, grief, business loss, failing a class…

SOMEONE TO HOLD YOU

Whether you suffered little ‘t’ trauma or big ‘T’ trauma, if you didn’t have someone to hold you and comfort you and believe in you and help you heal your pain, you were probably affected by the trauma. We can resolve it.

RELATIONSHIPS

Are you having relationship problems? Anxiety, adverse childhood experiences, little t and big T trauma all have an impact on our ability to connect and have a good relationship.

WORK WITH ME

If you would like to work with me to deal with anxiety, the little t and big T traumas of life or any relationship issues, let’s set up a free 20-minute consult.

NEXT STEP TO CHOOSING YOUR THERAPIST

Schedule a free, 20-minute consultation. We’ll talk about what’s going on with you, what you’d like to accomplish in therapy and see if we’re a good fit. To set up a video call, use the button below or e-mail me at natwalterfisk@protonmail.com.

THERAPY ONLINE

    • Secure, encrypted, confidential
    • HIPAA and GDPR-compliant

WHAT METHODS WILL WE USE?

You’re you. I will customize your therapy around your preferences and the approach that suits you best. I might use Trauma Reprocessing / Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR); Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction techniques; Inner Child work; guided visualizations; a variety of relationship therapy approaches such as the Psychobiological Approach to Therapy (PACT), Gottman, adult and childhood attachment theories; strengths-based; solution focused methods; Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT); Internal Family Systems; or a somatic approach. Your therapy will be designed uniquely for you.

HOW LONG WILL WE WORK TOGETHER?

The length of time we spend in therapy / counseling is up to you. Most people begin to feel better in 4 to 10 weeks. If you are new to therapy / counseling, I like to define a chunk of work we want to complete, plan 12 sessions to get it done, re-evaluate as we go, and at the 10-week mark, start to wrap up or decide if there is more work you would like to do with me. For some issues it will take longer.

About

Anxiety therapy / counseling with Natasha Walter-Fisk

EXPERTISE

If you’re looking for an anxiety therapist / counselor who is warm and cares about you, who gets you and is really good at what they do, you’ve found her. So, let’s get to the heart of the issue that’s bothering you and deal with it.

Next Step To Choosing Your Therapist: Free 20-minute consultation

WHAT DO YOU LOVE

I love: Time with family and friends, good food, learning and textiles.
Travel: Working while traveling is the best and vacations are great too. Expat in England in my teens, Italy in my 30s and Poland in my 50s, 2 years each. Digital nomad 1-12 months per year.
Nature and the outdoors: hiked the John Muir Trail, the Colorado Trail, 28 of the 14,000 foot mountains in Colorado; weeks long bicycle trips; camping in the US and Europe.

SPECIALITIES

    • Anxiety therapy and counseling for everything that might go with anxiety:
    • Not feeling comfortable in your skin
    • A feeling in the pit of your stomach
    • Relationship issues, family issues
    • Imposter Syndrome
    • Sunday Scaries
    • Perfectionism, high expectations
    • A harsh Inner Critic
    • Feeling like you don’t belong, an outsider
    • Experiences like being yelled at, insulted
    • Growing up in a family that didn’t see or value you
    • Bad break-ups
    • Traumas: physical, sexual and psychological abuse, bullying, rape, medical trauma, discrimination
    • Adverse experiences when you were a child: poverty, losing a parent, seeing your caregivers get physical, having a family member with mental illness, who used drugs or who went to jail, feeling like your parents didn’t love you, parents insulting or putting you down, physical or sexual abuse

QUALIFICATIONS

Here’s what makes me an effective anxiety therapist / counselor:

    • Use Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
    • EMDRIA Certified Therapist
    • EMDRIA Consultant-in-Training
    • Use Internal Family Systems (IFS):
    • IFS Institute Trained, Level 1, Inner Circle, Continuity Circle
    • California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) 47582
    • Colorado Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) 5742
    • Minnesota Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) 2624
    • Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology (MACP), Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (ITP)
    • Master’s Certificates: Creative Expression, Spiritual Guidance, ITP
    • Bachelor of Arts, St. John’s College (Great Books Program)

WORK EXPERIENCE

    • Let’s Deal With It, therapist and counselor since 2012
    • TalkSpace online therapist and counselor
    • Colorado crisis centers, counselor
    • Case worker, Spanish speaking families, teens on probation
    • Day treatment program for adolescents
    • Residential recovery center
    • Residential Care Facility for Elders

SCHEDULE A FREE 20-MINUTE CONSULT

If I sound like a therapist you would like to work with, schedule a time to talk with me about what is going on with you, what you hope to accomplish in therapy and see if we’re a good fit. Use the button below.

Next Step To Choosing Your Therapist: Free 20-minute consultation

Therapy Outcomes

SUCCESS RATE

I have a very good success rate, especially with stress, anxiety and trauma, and the relationship problems as well as with occasional depression that comes with trauma.
Over the years, I have developed skills and methods that really work. I have helped hundreds of people one to one. My high success rate, in part, is due to the fact that I work well with people who have stress, anxiety and trauma.  The success is also due to the fact that people with stress, anxiety, and trauma tend to have a number of personal strengths. You may not be aware of your strengths yet.  That’s ok. I just want you to know that these issues tend to be more amenable to change.

Therapy / Counseling Fees

THERAPY / COUNSELING FEES

50-80 minute individual online therapy / counseling session via Zoom
$200 US
If we are working on a topic that needs extra time,

we can go over 50 minutes; it’s already built into my schedule.

Special rates are possible for international clients, expats and digital nomads. Please e-mail me at natwalterfisk@protonmail.com for more information.

SCHEDULE YOURSELF IN FOR A FREE CONSULTATION!

Use the button below or e-mail me at natwalterfisk@protonmail.com to set up an appointment. Next Step To Choosing Your Therapist: Free 20-minute consultation

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