WHY THERAPY HELPS YOU TO FEEL BETTER
When people do therapy / counseling, they heal and feel better. Most people start to enjoy themselves more and make positive changes because through therapy / counseling they release the harmful effects of the past, learn new ways to deal with stress, cope with anxiety, stop or manage panic, stop being triggered by trauma and deal with feelings. (This is generally true; but no one can or should guarantee this.)
YOU ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR BRAIN AND EVERYTHING ELSE FOLLOWS
Your brain and body get flooded with naturally produced stress chemical when you are under stress, feel anxious, panicky or something triggers a bad memory. Your reactions often become habitual patterns of thoughts, feelings and sensations. These form a neural network in your brain. The more often you react the same way, the more deeply ingrained the habit becomes. The good news is that through therapy / counseling you can reverse deeply ingrained habits and you can change your neural networks. This literally changes the connections in your brain and as a result, changes the way you think and feel and the sensations in your body, for the better.
THE CHALLENGES ARE WORTH IT
Things really do get better. When you get into therapy / counseling, you begin to pay attention to things you’ve been ignoring. This can feel right at the same time as it feels bad. Therapy / counseling can lead to relief and to radical reductions in stress, anxiety and panic. Again, no guarantees, but in general, fortified by the changes you have made and equipped with new insights and mental health skills gained in therapy, you become a new you, living the life you want.
LIFELONG SKILLS NOT A DAILY PILL
Positive results from therapy tend to last. Research studies confirm this. It is different from taking medication. Healing from the wounds of the past frees you. Healing, skills and understanding that you gain in therapy / counseling last a lifetime. Learning to manage stress, anxiety, or any other mental health issue leads to hard-won wisdom that you will have for the rest of your life.
Once we are adults, I believe it’s our responsibility to get help to repair any damage that has been done to us. We live in reaction to stress, fears, panic, the way we were raised, educated, things that happened, our relationships. Parents, siblings, romantic partners, events or circumstances may well be to blame for the way we turned out. However, I believe that adults have an obligation to start healing the wounds we sustained in the past and stop carrying the emotional baggage of the past. Your past made you who you were. With the help of therapy / counseling, you get to define who you are and you get to be who you want to be. If this is your moment, I’m glad.
YOU CAN TELL ME ANYTHING AND WE CAN DEAL WITH IT TOGETHER
Therapy is very helpful with the right therapist / counselor. It’s not like trying to talk with friends or family who offer responses and solutions based on their life and their relationship to you. As a therapist / counselor, I hold a safe space for you to tell me anything. It’s ok, you won’t shock me and you don’t have to protect me. Believe me, I have heard some bad junk. I am still here, acutely aware of the human condition, still doing counseling with people. In addition to giving you the space to say what you need to say, I know how to help you deal with it. Stress, anxiety, panic and trauma can be managed. Bad experiences can be processed so they stop intruding; they can become memories that you remember as often as an old photo in a scrap book on a shelf.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, also known as trauma reprocessing or EMDR, can be a relatively fast modality to resolve all kinds of issues. EMDR is powerful because it uses thoughts, feelings, and the five senses–visual imagery and physical sensations to resolve difficulties. First, we teach you skills to help you to de-stress. Then, when you’re ready, we set the scene. Based on your body language and how the processing is going, I prompt you to follow what comes up and then stop to regroup. The process is unique to you and driven by you. Here’s why it’s so valuable: If I tell you that you’re a good person worthy of love and respect, that may help you. But if you reprocess negative beliefs about yourself and develop new positive beliefs, you will know just the right words to express your discoveries about how wonderful you are. You will say it in your own words and it will be very powerful and meaningful to you. The experience will help you to heal your past and create a better future.